It seems like every time a stressful situation or conflict is over, we sit there and say to ourselves "I should have said that or I should have said this." We usually look back at the past to shame ourselves or others for what was done or not done.
I may not be able to change the past, but I can create my future by accepting what was and by letting the past go. I can start to create my life from a place of positivity and awareness. If I have a history of not speaking up or stand up for myself, only I can create something different going forward. To break the cycle I have to do something different.
Should I remind every one the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. We have all been there and done that right!?!
I should say that something I was afraid to even if it doesn't come out the way I intended. If things don't go as I thought they would, I can easily take responsibility and make amends. Another way I can do it differently is, I can go back to them later and say I was thinking about what happened and I really want to say (Insert Blank) and discuss the situation again. You may be surprised that both parties may feel better after a little time is past. This will also help stop the cycle of living in regret or revenge.
When we do something different we create something different. It is up to you to break a cycle and be ok with not being perfect while trying to do it. We all make mistakes, no one is perfect. When we practice things they get easier and we get better results. Start a new practice and see how different things can turn out.